In about 48hours we are about to bid adieu to the ongoing year 2017. Before you are flooded with messages, wishes and carried away with celebrations in welcoming new year 2018, I thought of spreading my lesson as I have learnt through life.
I had started writing seriously in the year 2014 through this English blog with the inspiration of one of my close friend. But the same lost it’s track again while I have started writing in Bengali, mainly short poems (limericks) and essays. But my non Bengali friends kept on complaining as that they could not understand anything about it. Hence this year end post is dedicated to everyone , mainly for the people who could not understand any of my Bengali creations.
Anyways, let’s come to the topic !
Last week I met one of the senior fellow entrepreneurs of Bengal and got an extremely thought provoking insight. He said he learnt bathing in his old age (60+) from his grandson. I felt extremely curious. He said while concluding one day bathing session his 4 year’s old grandson told him” Relax grandpa, Bathing is not about just washing the body, but also to enjoy. Let me enjoy my bathing for few more moments”. I was speechless, how deep understanding of life from a just 4 year old kid.
The People of my generation (in mid forties) are not only in crisis, but also always in confusion. We have seen both the worlds, the world before connectivity and the aftewards. Hence even if we are addicted towards google, Facebook, Twitter, we keep on missing our older disconnected times. With the rise of connectivity we keep on getting overenthusiastic on hyped technologies like cloud, internet of things (IoT), Big Data, Blockchain and so on. People might be jumping on arguing on this , but may not disagree to the fact none of these are able bring peace to our life. Human lifes are becoming miserable day by day.We are worried about future with the knowledge of past and become too engaged in transactions. The aim is always to have greater future. But in the strive of having bright future we can not experience our present. In our life only present moment of time persists. Past is gone, future is unseen. But unfortunately none of us are able to enjoy the present.
What ever is happening around us, we are not happy about it. We want something else and feel that will make us happy. Last day me and my family were enjoying the laser show in Lumbini Park , Hyderabad. Due course of the show of around 30minutes, my little son (6years old) poked me at least five times tos get a promise from me about playing mobile games once we are back home. We visited a family marriage ceremony few months back with my kids. Immediately after reaching venue, my daughter (10years) started persuing me for mobile games as she was getting bored. These are just some indicative samples to illustrate the facts. There are plentiful of similar examples to complement my thoughts. We keep on talking about external noises, sound polutions. However our internal noises are so vivid, it is not allowing us to live our present time happily.
In continuation of the little kid’s philosophy on bathing, please think how many of us are giving real importance on bathing. Bathing is always a hurried approach like a compliance of our daily routine life while the mind is internally talking about what all things are to be done post bathing and what all not went well or remained pending before the bathing. Same is applicable for every instances of life. Suppose I am writing something now and my mind is thinking about family activities to be done tomorrow, I have not written english blog frequently this year and next year I need to ramp up. Let’s assume we have bagged a project from a customer. Immediately during kick-off, i am thinking how fast I can finish this project, get the money and do some more businesses there. In life we keep on saving money for family, kids with a thought process while everything will get settled, then I will enjoy. By the time all settled, kids grown up, my age also travelled a long way with several physical problems like sugar, pressure, arthritis and so on. In effect I can not enjoy now as well. In life all three parameters like time, place and the entity get altered with time. Hence whatever is valid now, may not be relevant in the very next instances.
“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha
What does it mean to live fully in the present moment? It means that your awareness is completely centered on the present. We are not worrying about the future or thinking about the past. The past and future are illusions, they don’t exist. As the saying goes “tomorrow never comes”. Tomorrow is only a concept, tomorrow is always waiting to come around the corner, but around that corner are shadows, never to have light shed upon, because time is always now.
Can we deep drive in this year end and have a resolution in the coming year 2018 to enjoy every moment of our life?